I apologize for my aggressive passivity in posting new blog entries. I have been polishing and polishing my manuscript until it is now quite blindingly shiny. Good news: I’m back. Bad news: I’m wearing sunglasses indoors.
I am an easy target for passive aggression. Are you? Something about me screams, don't confront her head on. Go around. Under. To the side. Make sure she has no idea that she's dead center in the bulls-eye. And then wham! Perfectly passive aggression.
When I was 21, I sold snoods (hats) during the Christmas season. It was in a kiosk at the same mall. I thought this was a link up in the food chain because I had center aisle status but no, no, no. All the workers vied for the lone stool to sit on and major games were played to aggressively sell hats with a passive, polite attitude.
For ten years or so, I was a mental health counselor. Enough said.
Hmm, I’d love to know who coined the term. Below are some tried and true passive aggressive techniques:
Technique #1: Huff, puff, roll eyes, trudge, do it late, halfheartedly.
Technique #2: Purposefully forget.
Technique #3: Pout.
Technique #4: Do the job but act taken for granted, martyr extraordinaire.
The difference between what is said and done is the passive aggression.
The king of all sites: http://www.passiveaggressivenotes.com This is a collection of notes found and submitted by people either perpetrating passive aggression or falling victim to it. These notes are authentic. You can feel the realness. Have you ever written anything like that?
Okay, busted. The notes may not actually be very passive. More like rude and confrontational. But they are funny. And in the words of Dr. Scott Wetzler, a clinical psychologist, “A joke can be the most skillful passive-aggressive act there is.” Many societal problems are exposed in these notes. The problems, by popularity, seem to be:
1. People eat people's food without asking.
2. People pee in the elevator.
3. People pee in the wastebasket at tanning salons.
4. People don't clean up after themselves.
5. People dump stuff in random places.
What does it mean that there is a website devoted to collecting such letters? People are awesome.
Ever drawn a picture to go with your passive aggressive tweet? Well, that’s all they do at Twaggies. http://www.neatorama.com/twaggies/
This site features made-up words that often embody passive aggression, www.urbandictionary.com. Note to the more tender gregorific fans: This is a very offensive site.